today marks the beginning of the second week of advent and tonight we lit for the first time the Peace candle.
Simon is starting to get it more now and I love that every evening lighting the candles we have a conversation about Christ and why we are lighting the candles. All last week he was pretty sure that “Advent” was a person that was coming to our house, and that Joseph (in the nativity figurines) was actually God. Now he is a little more straightened out, he knows about Mary, Joseph and Gabriel and that they are on their way to Bethlehem, and he knows that Mary has a baby in her tummy.
I can see how all of this can be very confusing to a child especially since he gets information and feedback from all sorts of sources besides Myles and I (other adults and kids). And then there is also Santa Clause on top of it all which is like a completely different narrative so that’s also confusing. Last year I checked out books from the library about the legend of St. Nicholas and I think I might do that again but mainly this year I was to focus on the Christmas story and not throw too much at him but he already knows that Santa Clause comes to your house and brings presents. A few times last week when people would come to the door and knock and Simon would jump up and say “that’s Santa Clause!” and I would respond with something like “no that’s probably Grandma, remember Grandma is coming over for lunch.” Finally I told him that Santa Clause wasn’t coming for another month and besides he didn’t use the front door he came down the chimney. Simon just looked at me really confused and said “Why?!” which when you think about it is a really good question… why would someone try and slide down a chimney when there is a perfectly good front door? I know it comes from the legend of St. Nicholas who dropped gold coins down the chimney into the stockings that were drying over the embers but how did that evolve into him actually sliding down your chimney with presents? Wouldn’t it make more sense if you work up to a fire place stuffed with gifts? So because I didn’t know what to say I just told him “that’s just what Santa Clause does!” Who knew all of this was going to be so complicated?
Tonight we also decorated our tree (next am I going to have to explain the druids?) and Myles ask Simon if he knew why we put stockings up over the fire place and Simon looked at him and said “I just don’t know!” and that’s how I feel now too I am beginning to see just how silly a lot of our traditions actually seem when you step back from them and look at them with fresh eyes. The whole Catalan tradition of Caga Tio pooping out your presents starts to seems a lore more reasonable. But none of that means that I am going to stop doing any of them…
I also wanted to share something that we started 3 years ago for Simon’s first Christmas. We heard about this family on NPR, I believe it was a story on All Things Considered about family traditions. At any rate this particular family had a box of books that only came out at Christmas and they were all books pertaining to the winter festivities. We liked the idea a lot and I started collecting books (mostly from goodwill) that had to do with Christmas. Now we have a small collection and we store them away with the Christmas stuff when the holidays are over. Each year we plan to buy one or two new books for this little collection. It was fun to bring it out this year as Simon doesn’t remember any of them and they are like all new books to him. I also have started collecting books about Easter and ones relating to fall and I plan to bring those out at the seasonally appropriate times. But if you have any suggestions for Christmas books to get please leave me a comment as I would love to get at least one new one this year so if you have a favorite let me know.Portfolio | Contact Me | Book a Session
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